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Hey readers. Have any of you ever seen Napoleon Dynamite? In this indie/off-beat comedy, the brother of main character and pseudo-protagonsit Napoleon, Kip, is involved in an online relationship. A short, nerdy white guy, viewers could safely assume that he was altering his appearance to please his online 'girlfriend'. when they finally meet, the girl friend is a larger, african american woman who, after an online relationship, winds up influencing him in offline life (as seen in the meme above, where is he sporting a 'do-rag'). this example of course is extremely cliche and full of social stereotypes, which is part of the overall hilarity. however, this type of situation really does exist!! Kip is what many may call a 'catfish'. For my un-knowing readers, a 'catfish' is a person who creates one or more online personalities with traits in order to make others become infatuated/fall in love with them. These 'catfish' can maintain virtual relationships, sometimes for years, without ever meeting this person so as to keep an unexpecting victim in love with a person who does not exist. This term has become much more well-known since the airing of a show in fall 2012 on MTVcalled 'Catfish'. The show aims to help someone in an online relationship see if their virtual lover is real, or a 'catfish'. Of course, I am only mentioning this to bring context to the term, not to support the viewing of MTv dramas (you don't want to get me started ranting on them).
Anyway. Reading Carter's article on the study of social media, and how she has gathered research through story-telling inspires me to think more about relationships that are sparked on line, and how they are altered/different than those that may occur offline. the first the i think of is: would i be more likely to talk to someone online that i would not otherwise have any contact with? this goes back to my cliche, goofy Napoleon Dynamite example; the brother comes from back-woods small town and has a pet llama. his girl friend is from the other side of the country, and took a greyhound bus to meet him. would they otherwise have met ortalked to each other in real life? probably not. passing by each other on the street would not offer the opportunity for the same kind of boundless self-exposure as you have available on line. social contexts set social boundaries, while online relationships are freed from these boundaries. This observation of mine is a direct example reflecting Castell's opinion on this matter. He states that "ethnicity and race still exist in network society, but they do not longer have the power to provide strong identities" (2000 [1996]). This (fictional, but semi-accurate) example shows that what Castell has observed is true.
A real life example is also fairly easy to find. For example, a quick search online has led me to a fairly charming example of a couple who found each other online, and wound up getting married. The husband had chosen the internet as a way to meet people, as he was confined to a wheelchair and was tired of the shallow offline world "...with many women only focused on appearance". http://www.dailymercury.com.au/news/internet-dating-does-have-a-lot-of-things-going-fo/1753019/
So, here is an example from real-life, where a relationship that might otherwise not exist was started online; someone who was tired of the shallow external, offline world of dating was able to find a true kindred spirit online, no 'catfish'-like characteristics included. Reading about examples like this has begun to alter my attitude toward online relationships. I had a friend when I was thirteen who 'dated' a boy online for a year. He lived on the other side of the country, and they never met. I always thought it was a little odd, and still, I myself would never engage in one of these faceless, immaterial relationships, where my virtual boyfriend could actually be a 50-year old man living in his mother's basement! However, I do see the value in this ability to engage in relationships, without the pressures that exist in the offline world. It gives everyone with a computer and an internet connection the chance to find someone who they can relate to. This kind of social 'internet advantage' is one that I do not look down upon quite as much now. I only advise not to let yourself get lured in and 'hooked' by a 'catfish'
Anyway. Reading Carter's article on the study of social media, and how she has gathered research through story-telling inspires me to think more about relationships that are sparked on line, and how they are altered/different than those that may occur offline. the first the i think of is: would i be more likely to talk to someone online that i would not otherwise have any contact with? this goes back to my cliche, goofy Napoleon Dynamite example; the brother comes from back-woods small town and has a pet llama. his girl friend is from the other side of the country, and took a greyhound bus to meet him. would they otherwise have met ortalked to each other in real life? probably not. passing by each other on the street would not offer the opportunity for the same kind of boundless self-exposure as you have available on line. social contexts set social boundaries, while online relationships are freed from these boundaries. This observation of mine is a direct example reflecting Castell's opinion on this matter. He states that "ethnicity and race still exist in network society, but they do not longer have the power to provide strong identities" (2000 [1996]). This (fictional, but semi-accurate) example shows that what Castell has observed is true.
A real life example is also fairly easy to find. For example, a quick search online has led me to a fairly charming example of a couple who found each other online, and wound up getting married. The husband had chosen the internet as a way to meet people, as he was confined to a wheelchair and was tired of the shallow offline world "...with many women only focused on appearance". http://www.dailymercury.com.au/news/internet-dating-does-have-a-lot-of-things-going-fo/1753019/
So, here is an example from real-life, where a relationship that might otherwise not exist was started online; someone who was tired of the shallow external, offline world of dating was able to find a true kindred spirit online, no 'catfish'-like characteristics included. Reading about examples like this has begun to alter my attitude toward online relationships. I had a friend when I was thirteen who 'dated' a boy online for a year. He lived on the other side of the country, and they never met. I always thought it was a little odd, and still, I myself would never engage in one of these faceless, immaterial relationships, where my virtual boyfriend could actually be a 50-year old man living in his mother's basement! However, I do see the value in this ability to engage in relationships, without the pressures that exist in the offline world. It gives everyone with a computer and an internet connection the chance to find someone who they can relate to. This kind of social 'internet advantage' is one that I do not look down upon quite as much now. I only advise not to let yourself get lured in and 'hooked' by a 'catfish'